How to deal with someone you don't like
September 03, 2013

In your normal, out-of-office life, you don't like everyone you come across. From a snooty waitress that seems to have an attitude to a friend of a friend who just rubs you the wrong way, this is going to happen with some frequency as life goes on. It's the same in the workplace.

However, it's a little different when you're an accounting firm owner and have to manage someone you don't get along with. The key is always to remain impartial and remember their contribution to the team. Maybe they're the one employee who knows all of the ins and outs of financial software features and can balance the books with blazing speeds, or it could be that this person handles tougher clients with grace like no one else.

Whatever the reason you don't like them or would rather not interact with them, there are tips and tricks on how to properly speak with and manage such workers.

Fake it 'til you make it
According to Inc. Magazine, in many cases, it's just easier to plaster a smile on your face and pretend to like them, because employees are likely to link any adverse feelings to their performance, which may or may not be the case. This might then lead to them becoming discouraged and ultimately unproductive. Plus, you certainly don't want to create conflict in the office for any reason.

Talk it out
Maybe that worker who is acting in a way that causes you to dislike him or her has some other issue going on, something that you could empathize with. As such, Mind Tools recommends that, if appropriate, firm owners should talk the situation out with the worker. Staying calm during the discussion is paramount, the news source said, and outright asking him or her how they can develop a better, more understanding relationship often does the trick. 

Know your limits
Inc. also noted that when a worker is actually a jerk and is obnoxious to the entire team, it might just be better at the end of the day to fire them. If they create a culture where it's not fun for the rest of your workers to come to the office everyday, that is unacceptable. 

However, it's important to know the rules when firing someone - it might be best to check local and state laws regarding this process. For instance, we all know that it's unacceptable to let go of someone just because you don't like them, but if they're legitimately a negative influence on the business, it might be time to call it a day. 

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